love my..mind BODY and soul

Tall, short ,Skinny thick.. women come in all shapes and sizes. some are a bit more appreciated than others, though everyone has there preference it seems that guys cant get enough of big booties.

i my self wasn't fortunate enough to carry ham hocks in the back of my pants and I'm not mad at it, but it does seem like guys have issue with girls who are less fortunate than others.

Our society has made us believe in the perfect life the perfect hair and the perfect body amongst others. i know females who soul goal in life it to have that "video vixen body".. and there are guys who would bash a girl til she is in tears that she has a flat ass... there are guys who would choose a girl with no moral just because her body is "banging". even everyones favorite rapper, Lil Wayne said" she's like a bitch with no ass, she ain't got shit." what does that really mean,since i have no ass i have nothing to live for? (Line from AMilli)



Personally, i don't understand the fixation with the bootylicious feens. its more to a girl than just her ass. i decided to ask a couple of guys that i know, all are from different age groups and different circle of friends and basically just ask why do they prefer...ass



Most of the answers were very similar: they like because it something to grab on, and it looks nice and when they have sex..you know, more cushion for the pushing. but most of the guys that i interviewed said that butt was preferred but not a must. it was only a plus ... they said they would like their girl to have a little something something and most said they would date a girl with none if they haven't already. So does that mean those with out it basically have to work twice as hard ?

Some guys even said they like it but that's not who they are dating or having sex with its whats in between the knees that holds the power. other just straight up said butt is not a plus its a must. smh..



All of this leads me to the main purpose of me writing this, ladies you must not worry about what a guy has to say. if he is gonna love u , your body shouldn't matter. we beat our selves up because of what society has imprinted in our brains.

The way women bodies are being exploited in videos and in magazines reminds me of Saartjie Baartman also known as Sarah Bartman. she was a Slave brought from south African to travel as a circus freak because of her bodacious body. these slave owners were freaked out, why is her butt and her boobs so big, why is she so big. they wanted the world to see this "freak of nature"





But she wasn't a freak. The slave holds treated her like a hoe..their European women didn't have curves. the wanted to so see how it felt to have sex with a women like, does that remind you of anything..isn't that how video girls are treated.. she caught all types of diseases because of that.



This was the body of our ancestors, this is the body that some African American women hold today. its a beautiful thing. Sarah died at age 25 from being tormented, locked up in cage, poked at and made fun of.. it disgusting how she was treated while living and even worse how she was treated once she passed.



They took her breast, and her butt and removed them from her corpse and put them on a display at a french museum as if it was an artifact. Fellas I'm not saying don't love and embrace a women's curve but treat it with respect. and for those women who have less curves treat her body with the same. Ladies your body is a temple.. don't let any one tell your your body isn't beautiful. but remember that's not whats its all about .. do not live your life trying to look like Kim k if anything Kim K is trying to look like us ., we are not all meant to look like that.



Love you for who you are and others will treat you with the same love and respect. if u don't respect your self who else will. fellas just because a female doesn't respect herself, doesn't mean that u have the right to disrespect her, treat her like you would want some to treat your mom your sister, aunt, grandma even your daughter remember she will grow up into a woman.

This is just food for thought.


*special thanks to all the guys that let me interview them, love u guys
** thanks to all my girls(i Hop..lol) who wanted to get the low down on the way guys feel about our little booties, hold ya head up cause you still have those boys coming...lol